Self perception
April 1
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One very frustrating thing to know is that I will never get the opportunity to see myself through someone else's eyes. I am the only person who will ever really know me through and through, and when I die, I will die remembering only my own experiences, I will be, essentially, alone forever.
Although frustrating at first, this thought somehow transforms into an epiphany; If this body is the only way for me to experience my life then why would I ever spend any time worrying about how I am perceived by others, or dwell over silly insecurities. Since we are all human I think it's safe to assume that everybody feels this way, they probably spend 90% of the time thinking or worrying about how others see them, but if everybody is doing this then we are rarely judging each other!
How delightful that we are so self consumed! With this knowledge we can free ourselves from fear of judgement, we can revel in the thought that everybody is only judging us as a reflection of themselves.
We spend a lot of time wishing we had better bodies, better skin tone, better hair, we spend a lot of time swooning over other men and women, dying for their legs, thinking perhaps if we obtained physical perfection then we could have it all, we would feel complete.
It's only when I stop to clear my head, when I stop and think of all the happy couples I know, happy friendships, happy love, I don't see perfect, thin bodies, I don't see dark tans and radiant eyes, I don't think of perfect sense of style or great muscle tone, in fact I don't really think of physicalities at all, I think of smiling and talking, connecting, kissing and resting heads on one another.
The world is not out looking for super models, we are not looking for dreams, we are not looking for anything but real love, in fact it seems as time goes by all I am really looking for is myself, reflected in the kindest and happiest of ways, in somebody else's eyes.
Someone who will kiss me when I am crying, someone who will ease the stress of self perception by making me laugh every day... really, really hard.
My boyfriend comes home on Tuesday, I look forward to it.
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Reader Comments (15)
Thanks for the insight.. it really brings it back to what is important in life.
Working int he fashion & design industry we get so used to seeing these "perfect" images and forget about the things that most probably make us really happy.
Lots of love all the way from Melbourne, Australia.
Kris xx
This is beautiful and so insightful! Thank you so much for sharing!
What a fresh prospective. Thank you.
it's good to remember that the most beautiful people certainly aren't the happiest. there's so much more to life than what's skin deep. thanks for the reminder <3
beautiful.
Please don't ever stop blogging! I appreciate all these posts way too much.
Hi Kim,
Reuniting with your bf will be magical! It was really cool to read that and hear/receive your perspective. For a long time I had a hard time understanding how people could stay together in couples for so long.
It was really before I met anyone I could truly be with but one time a gf of mine said, wouldn't it just be so cool to live life along side someone who knows you inside and out and wants to be there everyday sharing all of your experiences.
That's what I thought of when you said that our memories are our own, finding at true love is sharing life with some one who remembers the same things.
In the end all i want is to have lived a life of laughter and smiles... Your post reminded me to let go of the little little things that give me a lot of stress but don't matter.
Take care :)
You are so clever...
Wish you would post personal stuff like this more often :)
I admire you!
What Alex said. Thanks for sharing. <3
This is a really lovely post. I always feel kinda sad when I see posts by people who post photos of other people saying they wished they had their legs, hair, face etc. I always wonder if the photos of the people they post like what others like about them so much. I think it's better to be inspired by someone else than to want to be them. There's nothing better than someone loving you for who you are. Whether it's friends, family or a partner.
xx
...someone who will ease the stress of self perception by making me laugh every day...
Nailed it. Love it. Currently Inspired and Determined. Thank you!
This is very beautifully written.
Very grand epiphany, I think you would get a lot out of "think on these things" by Krishnamurti. He came to the same conclusions and a few others, all eye opening and almost life changing. For me at least. Check it out!
That is so inspirational, very well said.